There can be the times when you would not remain the person
or parent you intended to be. These are the times when we can make serious
mistakes. Well, we all make mistakes, and this is the very feature which
defines humanity.
The bad news is that there is no way can be the perfect
parents even if we want to be the ones. Humans have emotions which can easily
make a person get off track and act accordingly. Hence, we can get disconnected
form out children and life partners. Either it can be the result of making
mistake or it can result us in making the mistakes. In both cases, the things
can go bad seriously.
However, the humans are also equipped with the reasoning and
ability to see consequences. This is the ability which we often call gut
feeling. So, when we start to make such mistakes, we start getting the signals
from brain that something is going to get wrong. As a result, it becomes easier
to stop and correct the direction.
Even better news is that making mistakes and then corrective
actions as follow-ups can actually make things closer to the ideal. When we
make mistakes by showing bad behavior to the kids and then try to reconnect
with a more positive approach, things tend to get better than they previously
were.
Nevertheless, it really doesn’t mean that negative emotions
and mistakes shouldn’t be taken care of. Anticipating something and living with
it are two entirely different things.
Notice the mood
change
Good thing is that humans have the natural ability to notice
the mood changing and foreseeing the consequences of acting under the influence
of bad mood. It is exactly like beeping of red light in the panel when airplane
gets off course. You can identify those moods changes, stop and breathe for a
while to get back to normal. Remember, you need to strictly avoid acting upon
any emotions you would have during that time.
Keep in mind the real
goal of parenting
You may be angry and advancing towards doing something you
would later regret, you can keep reminding yourself about the goals of
parenting. For instance, if your priorities are to stay connected with your
kids and build a relationship based on trust, you can remind yourself that
yelling and being angry to kids cannot be helpful in any scenario.
Try to reconnect
When you have committed the mistake and now you are
wondering how to make things get back to normal, you can try to reconnect with your kids. You can apologize to kids when you calm down. It’s not something
like giving away your authority. It is more like a lesson to the kids. They
will be able to learn how to make things right after making mistakes.
